George Floyd and Michael Ramos

May 31

Today’s Austin newspaper has two different stories relating to my kids. On the front of the Metro section is Ken Herman’s column hoping that the class of 2020 will be part of a new Greatest Generation; that column is accompanied by photos from our neighborhood graduation, which included Liam and a dozen or so other kids graduating high school. The front section included extensive coverage of the protests of the killings of George Floyd in Minneapolis and Michael Ramos here in Austin, protests that both of our kids attended (and came home from with pepper spray burns).

The kids, of whom we are very proud, went there to be part of standing up against police brutality and to provide support to the voices of people of color. And they brought water and medical supplies and sunscreen and were ready to help–once camp counselors, always camp counselors. They joined their brothers and sisters in blocking I-35 and were on the receiving end of pepper spray as a result.

During the time that the kids were at the protests, I won’t pretend I wasn’t holding my breath. I watched livestreams; I followed Twitter; I watched their little dot on Find My Friends. I texted them regularly. And I was intensely aware of the fact that this sense of worry–this background noise that simply by being out, they were in danger–was something that parents of children of color have to contend with every day. I try every day to understand more the extent of the privilege we enjoy to have that basic comfort.

We recorded today’s show before basically all of this and so it doesn’t address it at all. Next week, I plan to essentially reuse the show we did after the protests and murder in Charlottesville, where I tried to put together a show featuring almost entirely artists from, as I put it then, “almost entirely music performed by artists from groups of which I am not a member: people of color, LGBTQ people, immigrants.” It’ll air here in Austin basically right as we pull into our new home in Saint Paul. (We will continue to be on the air in Austin with KUTX as our flagship station, just coming from Minnesota.) I wrote about Charlottesville back then, and it still rings all too true now, three years later.

I’m not the right guy to write about this, really. I’d commend you to Claudia and Dan Zanes’s Facebook page, where they have explored these issues with such love and care, and have excellent reading recommendations (many of which I have taken). I’m just a guy with a silly radio show, but I hope that silly radio show can be a positive influence.

Black lives matter.

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Rocking In The Age Of Covid-19

Mar 15

If you’re like, well, just about everyone with or without kids, you’re probably trying to figure out what you’ll do over the next days/weeks/good-lord-months of reduced social time. Here are some suggestions. I’ll try to keep this updated.

  • No Nap Family Happy Hour. Catherine Prystup of LiveMom and I were so bummed not to get to bring you all a ton of amazing family music during SXSW that we decided to do it anyway. We’ve launched the No Nap Family Happy Hour, presented by Springfree Trampoline. Every weekend for at least five weeks we’ve got some of the best performers around live-streaming on Facebook Live for you. We hope it helps you out, and we’re proud to be paying the artists too. Check it out here.
  • Listen to the radio. We’ll still be on (http://KUTX.org) at 6 pm central every Sunday (with host(s)). And KUTX is of course on 24-7. The station is mostly running without on-air staff right now, but every song is still hand-selected. MPR’s The Current has a pretty great stream for families, Rock The Cradle.
  • You can listen to our show going all the way back to 2012 right here on the website. Go to the Playlists tab and, thanks to the magic of PRX, you can stream, what, almost 400 hours of indie music for indie kids.
  • Watch some videos. We’ve got 184 videos on our YouTube playlist. Maybe start off with The Not-Its! doing Vacation?
  • Our sister station, KUT, is easily the best place for news and information, both locally and nationally.
  • If you have an HD radio, you can listen to an all-Austin stream on KUTX’s HD-2 channel. It’s the same stream you hear at the airport, and it’s awesome.
  • A lot of artists are doing streaming events (you can find an easy-to-use calendar at this handy Google doc). I’ll link to a few select ones I know about below and, as I hear about more, I’ll try to keep this updated with some of my picks. Remember that these days/weeks/good-lord-months without shows can be devastating for artists, so if they have a way to support them and you have the means, please do so, whether it’s a Patreon, an online merch store, or something else. That Google doc above has links to how to contribute to many of them.
    • Red Yarn: Andy has three half-hour Facebook Live events planned–Monday at 10 am, Wednesday at 10 am, and Thursday at 5:30 pm. Those times are all Pacific. Find him here on Facebook.
    • Laura Doherty: Chicago favorite and long-time friend of the show Laura will be on Facebook Live on Wednesday at 3 pm central.
    • Lloyd H. Miller: Lloyd was scheduled to do a sensory-friendly show at Jalopy today (Sunday) at 11 eastern, and will do it via Zoom instead. Because he wants to keep it focused on kids who will specifically benefit from that format, and to ensure everyone involved on the interactive portion has the right permission, it’s an invite thing: email him at lloydhmiller AT gmail DOT com. He is also doing Facebook live shows Tuesdays and Fridays at 10:30 am eastern.
    • Dan and Claudia Zanes: Dan and Claudia have been doing a delightful series of “Social Isolation” videos on Facebook Live. They’re just lovely.
    • The Lucky Band: Lucky Diaz and Alisha–frequent SXSW visitors and the best humans around–will be playing live on their Instagram story at 10 am PST and is on at that time pretty much every day. Starting tomorrow (March 16) it’ll be on their Facebook page.
    • 123 Andrés: Frequent Austin visitors Andrés and Christina will be live on YouTube today (Sunday) at 5 eastern and probably more times coming.
    • Joanie Leeds: Joanie Leeds–who you just heard guest DJ last week in connection with her kick-ass new album All The Ladies–is jumping into helping in this situation with characteristic full power. She’s got the Quarantine Kids Concerts with a subscription-based service with daily shows for both Jewish songs and secular songs. There’s a charge, but it’s pretty modest given the number of live shows you’ll get. (Plus, if you go with the larger fee, you’ll get not just a couple of weeks of live shows, but also her entire catalog, including the new record.)
    • Mil’s Trills, who did that great chart linked above, is also offering free online lessons to help with kids dealing with (understandable) stress or isolation. Details here.
    • Justin Roberts is doing Facebook Live every weekday at 10:30 with concerts on Thursdays. Go to his Facebook page (and probably sign up for his email list).
    • Jarrett J. Krosoczka, while not technically a musician, is a long-time friend of the show and books the author side of Meltdown (which we cannot wait to return). He’s doing a drawing lesson daily at 1 central on his YouTube channel.
    • Thao from Thao & the Get Down Stay Down will be live on her Instagram feed on March 18 at 2:30 central with a Thao For Kids livestream.
    • Brady Rymer, a/k/a the Nicest Human In Family Music, will kick off “Live from Brady’s House” on Sunday, March 21 at noon central.
    • Hopalong Andrew is telling tales and singing songs about being a cowboy in the city. Tuesday and Thursday mornings at 9 central on his Facebook page.

Wash your hands, rock out, and have a good week, y’all. We love you.

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Kindie Says No to Kids in Cages

Jun 21

I prepared the following statement with input from Lucky Diaz, Dan Zanes, Laurie Berkner, and others.  Following it is a list of people who have emailed me (show at sparetherock dot com) and requested to be added as signatories.

As performers and other members of the family music community, we jointly and strongly condemn the separation of children from their parents at the border. This inhumane treatment of families is counter to what we do to bring families together, and what we believe the United States should stand for. The “Zero Tolerance” directive that has led to the division of families—and to the caging of innocent children apart from their families—is cruel; it is immoral; it is counter-productive; it is un-American. We call for its end, and we hope our fans and listeners will do the same.

We recognize that as a musical community there is much we can be doing to understand and oppose all forms of oppression. We commit to educating ourselves and finding ways to be more useful and active in doing so.

Signatories:

  • Bill Childs, Spare the Rock, Spoil the Child Radio and Spare the Rock Records
  • Lucky Diaz & Alisha Gaddis, Lucky Diaz & the Family Jam Band
  • Dan Zanes
  • Laurie Berkner
  • Stephanie Mayers, Mayers Consulting
  • Lloyd Miller, The Deedle Deedle Dees
  • Mindy Thomas, Sirius/XM Kids Place Live, Tinkercast
  • Elizabeth Mitchell and You Are My Flower
  • Molly Ledford, Lunch Money
  • Aaron Canwell, Ryan Chouinard; Micah and Me
  • Frances England
  • Ratboy Jr.
  • Grandfather Paul Stark, Musical Merry-Go-Round Family Radioshow
  • Virginia Ralph and Robert Matthews, Mömandpöp
  • Matt Lynch
  • Brian Smith, Señor Fancypants
  • Mo Phillips
  • Jeffrey Cohen, GeekDad Contributing Writer
  • Joanie Calem
  • Marsha Goodman-Wood
  • Steve Denyes, Hullabaloo
  • Todd McHatton
  • The Not-Its!
  • Chris “Boom” Wiser & Rob “Dr Rock” Martin, Sugar Free Allstars
  • Patricia Kjolhede, Tunes ‘n’ Tales
  • Claudia Robin Gunn, Little Wild Music
  • Vivi Melody & Family
  • Lucy Kalantari
  • Ann Torralba, Little Miss Ann
  • Dana Boulé, Dana & the Petit Punks
  • Michael Romero, the Mr. Michael Group
  • Suzi Shelton
  • Dave Loftin, Saturday Morning Cereal Bowl radio
  • Steven Erdman, Lard Dog and the Band of Shy
  • Margot Bevington
  • Andy Furgeson, Red Yarn
  • Paul Butler, Kids Crossroads radio
  • Jay Mankita
  • Patricia Shih
  • Heather Hirshfield and Eddie RosenBerg III, The Green Orbs
  • Josh Lovelace, NEEDTOBREATHE and solo
  • Danny Weinkauf, The Red Pants Band and They Might Be Giants
  • Sagan Thacker, Radio Active Kids, Asheville, North Carolina
  • Bob Anthony and Mark Maziarz, BARK
  • Andrew A. Hunt (Cowboy Andy), The Salamanders
  • Ben Lee
  • Joanie Leeds
  • Deep Fried Pickle Project
  • Mista Cookie Jar
  • Jumpin’ Jamie
  • The Oot ‘n’ Oots
  • Dan Elliott, The Pointed Man Band
  • Kat Brotherton, Ms. Kat’s Music, Texas Community Music Festival
  • Mariana Iranzi
  • Noam Brown
  • Bear and Lion, Bears & Lions
  • Pam Donkin
  • Milo, Eliot, Emmet, Krisdee and Adam Donmoyer, Rockaroni & Cheese
  • Jack Forman, artist and Sirius XM Kids Place Live
  • Recess Monkey
  • Brook Packard, Sleepytime Club
  • Liz Gumbinner, Cool Mom Picks
  • Kari Thomas Kovick
  • Spring Bees
  • Elizabeth Waldman Frasier, Waldmania PR
  • Laura Doherty
  • Lisa Mathews, WTMD’s Young at Heart
  • Milkshake
  • Jennifer Paskow
  • Renee & Jeremy
  • Ben Rudnick
  • Vanessa Trien, Vanessa Trien & the Jumping Monkeys
  • Lou Gallo
  • Rolie Polie Guacamole
  • Like Father Like Son
  • Ben Gundersheimer & Katherine Jamieson, Mister G and Missus G
  • Matt Baron, Future Hits
  • Andrew Barkan and Polly Hall, Andrew & Polly
  • Steve Elci, Steve Elci & Friends
  • David Ladon and Seth Adams, Animal Farm
  • Alison Faith Levy
  • Alex Mitnick, Alex and The Kaleidoscope
  • Karen K & the Jitterbugs
  • Beth Blenz-Clucas, Sugar Mountain PR
  • Mike Messer, The Dirty Sock Funtime Band
  • Stephen Jacobs, The Dirty Sock Funtime Band
  • Adam Jacobs, The Dirty Sock Funtime Band
  • Annie Elmer, The Dirty Sock Funtime Band
  • Nick Deysher, In the Nick of Time
  • Sukey Molloy
  • Johnny Clay and Dave Gulick, Ants Ants Ants
  • Ralph Covert, Ralph’s World
  • Keeth Apgar, The Harmonica Pocket
  • Marc Bazerman, Baze & His Silly Friends
  • Gunnar Madsen
  • Ezra Idlet, Trout Fishing in America
  • The Bazillions
  • Cathy Fink & Marcy Marxer
  • Brady Rymer
  • Lisa Loeb
  • Katherine Dines
  • Stacey Peasley
  • Dana Cohenour
  • Dave Hamilton
  • Christina Hamilton
  • Evan and Vanessa
  • Mr. Singer and the Sharp Cookies
  • Nina Stone, Miss Nina
  • Justin Roberts
  • Joanie Whittaker
  • Katie Stone, The Children’s Hour Radio Show
  • Randy Kaplan
  • Jon Samson
  • Sara Lovell

If you’d like your name to be on this list, please email me (again: show at sparetherock dot com).  Please be patient if it takes a little to get your name added.

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Spare the Rock Events: Some Thoughts and Policies

Feb 12

There’s this story, based on a survey of folks involved in kid literature.  I don’t know what the results of a similar survey would be if done in family music, but I’m under no illusions: There’s no reason to think we’re immune from it.

So here are some basic policies for any event I’m presenting on my own.  They apply to presenters, attendees, sponsors, producers, crew, and me.  And anyone else.  I intend to include them in advance emails to performers and won’t book acts that won’t go along with them, and won’t put on events at venues that aren’t cool with them. My aim, and the aim of folks with whom I work, is to create fun, safe, silly events that are actively inclusive. These guidelines are consistent with what I’ve observed doing this for over a dozen years and are intended to be there to (a) hopefully avoid any future problems and (b) deal with the very rare problem case.

This is a first draft and if there are improvements suggested, I’ll consider and adopt them.  The structure is borrowed, with permission, from the JoCo Cruise Code of Conduct.

  1. Be kind. Treat others with kindness and respect. Be inclusive and friendly, like we try to get our kids to be.  This underlies everything else.
  2. Don’t harass others. These are not allowed, period: any kind of physical, verbal, or psychological abuse; threats, intimidation, and bullying; slurs about race, gender, ability, religion, ethnicity, or sexuality; unwanted romantic attention, sexual harassment, and generally gross or stalky behavior; and photographing anyone or engaging in physical interactions without consent. This includes, emphatically, contact (physical or otherwise) with children without their parent(s)’ or guardian(s)’ consent. If someone asks you to stop doing something and you keep doing it, that’s harassment. (A note: We sometimes take photographs at events. If you don’t want yourself or your kid photographed, let us know and we will respect that. I try to have photos be primarily of performers in any event, but kids are often in the background.)
  3. Be nice to our staff and volunteers. Number 1 up there applies to everyone working the event, too.
  4. Be nice to the venue. Clean up after yourself. Respect the facility. Be super nice to the venue’s staff. Tip well. (That last one applies everywhere.)
  5. Follow the law and follow the rules.  Duh. And if I become aware of any conduct that might meet the definition of a hate crime, you better believe I’m reporting it.

If an attendee is aware of any conduct that violates these policies, there will be identified people to whom they can make a report.  To be clear: if you see something problematic, tell someone; that’s your responsibility as a person engaging in society if you can do so safely.

The policies, and those contacts (who will when feasible include at least one person independent from the event) will be posted at events.  You have my personal commitment that harassment won’t be tolerated and we’ll deal with problems promptly. Because I’m involved in a range of events with different partners and contexts, I can’t make a general statement here about precisely what the process will be in all situations, but I do mean “deal with” appropriately and thoroughly. If I learn of misconduct at an event I’m part of, I will share that knowledge to try to prevent future harm.

For events/conferences I’m attending as a presenter or otherwise (as opposed to presenting), or events I’m helping produce without being a primary presenter, I’m borrowing ideas from John Scalzi’s policies: You need to have a harassment policy.  It needs to be clear and it needs to have an enforcement mechanism.  It doesn’t have to be the same as this one above, but it needs to be similarly broad in coverage and scope.

Again, I’m not basing this on any specific knowledge of specific misconduct at any family music event I’ve attended.  But the older I get, the more I realize I have an obligation to do what I can to make sure everyone feels comfortable and welcome and safe at events I put together.

Like I said, this is a draft.  I think it’s a pretty good one, but I’d love to know how it can be improved.  You can comment below or email me (show at sparetherock dot com).

(Note: I’m making edits in this and not noting them as I might usually.)

 

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Charlottesville

Aug 15

One of the very first stations to pick us up after we moved to Austin was 106.1 The Corner in Charlottesville, an eclectic AAA station. I listen to them every so often, and it’s a community-oriented friendly place, reflecting the lovely city in which it broadcasts.

We air there Sunday mornings at 8:00 and, as far as I know, we aired this last Sunday. (It was a show that had been recorded prior to any of the events.)  About eighteen hours earlier, Heather Heyer, who lived in Charlottesville, was killed by an American Nazi, maybe a mile or two from the station, based on my maps app.  She was standing up against the white supremacists and Nazis and Klansmen who had infested her city. She was–and is–a hero.

The Nazis and white supremacists and Klansmen were not “very fine people,” none of them, as the president asserts. They were carrying torches. They were chanting “White lives matter.” They were chanting “blood and soil.” They were chanting “Jews will not replace us.” They were there specifically to try to strike fear into the hearts of people of color, of LGBTQ people, of anyone who isn’t like them.

My grandparents, Gordon and Alma Hartrick, are pictured to the right on their honeymoon, on which they hiked miles to see Mount Rushmore under construction.  Upon their move to Arkansas, they were foster parents to many children in southeastern Arkansas in the era of de jure and de facto segregation. An African-American child in the community suffered burns at one point, and my grandmother brought the child to the clinic for treatment. Someone from the Klan saw it and, for no other reason than being offended by my grandmother’s humanity towards a child, they burned a cross–twice–in my grandparents’ yard.

There is a direct line from those people to the people who killed Heather Heyer, who attacked dozens of others, and, yes, to Dylann Roof. These are not “very fine people.”


I am a straight white guy.  I cannot and do not pretend to know what it is like to be a person of color or a person who’s marginalized in just about any other way in the United States.

I know that by being born white and male in the United States, I started off with a huge advantage–born on third base, as our great former governor Ann Richards said (possibly quoting Barry Switzer), though I try to remember that I didn’t get there by hitting a triple, as the quote concludes.  (Incidentally, fellow white guys, it is possible to simultaneously recognize that you got super lucky just by being born how you were and be proud that you worked hard to do what you’ve done.)

I’m constantly befuddled about how to deal with events like this on what is, after all, a silly radio show for children.  I don’t know if I get it right.  But this time, for this weekend’s show, it’s going to be almost entirely music performed by artists from groups of which I am not a member: people of color, LGBTQ people, immigrants. It’ll include some songs on point with the events, but it will also include some songs of hope, even if that’s not an emotion I’m feeling a ton of right now. I probably won’t talk about Charlottesville; I don’t know what I would say, and, again, it’s a silly radio show for children and it’s not my place to talk to kids about this. Parents can decide if they want to point out the songs we’re playing to their kids, if they decide that the songs have a place in that conversation.

This weekend’s show will not include this song, but I feel compelled to include it here.  Do not play it for your children, unless you are pretty flexible on the swears front.  I’m including this particular live version because–32 years ago–Jello Biafra addressed the nonsense that Nazis are patriotic.  “Phony patriotic rednecks are what brings our country down.”


Anyway.

Charlottesville listeners: We love you.

Other listeners: We love you.

Nazis: Well, listen to the song above.

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The kids at the shows will have kids of their own

Dec 17

you gotta stay positiveEarlier this month, I went out to Brooklyn to see three nights of The Hold Steady’s four-night run celebrating the tenth anniversary of their album Boys and Girls in America—their best-known album.  Today I updated my Google document in which I track shows dating back to around 2008 (it is a very imprecise list, especially for pre-2013 or so), and observe that the band is tied with Quiet Company for most shows in that period — 14 total.

I am, more or less precisely, The Hold Steady’s core demographic.  I’m 45 (same age as Craig), I grew up in the St. Paul suburbs (he grew up in the Minneapolis suburbs), I grew up listening to bands like the Replacements and the Suburbs and Arcwelder and so on.  And looking around the venue, there sure were a lot of folks like me—and a lot of guys (first show in ages where the men’s room line was much longer than the women’s).  The shows were (per usual) great, and I got to see friends (old and new!).

My first rock show in a club was The Suburbs at First Avenue circa 1987, the first of a number of “farewell” shows (that “farewell” thing never stuck; I in fact saw them this last summer at Taste of Minnesota).  Ella’s first rock show in a club was The Hold Steady at the Iron Horse in 2012, just before our move here.

For both of us, those introductions to club shows are almost not fair.  I’d put late ’80s shows from The Suburbs and any era Hold Steady show in my top ten live acts—maybe top three or four, honestly.  (This history with the ‘Burbs and other Twin Cities bands is part of why I am so utterly delighted to have a New Standards song on Let All The Children Boogie, incidentally.)

She’s gotten to see some amazing acts since then, too, including THS one or two more times, Quiet Company a ton, Thao and the Get Down Stay Down, TMBG many times, Matt & Kim, and countless acts at ACL, Fun Fun Fun, and Sound on Sound Fest.  We went and saw Hamilton in January, which, while not technically a concert, was similarly transporting.  She’s doing dishes now, listening to Thao cranked up.  I’m guessing Lizzo will be next on the playlist.

I think it’s safe to say she loves music and specifically live music—that photo to the left is from Quiet Company’s run at Holy Mountain (RIP), and watching her be transported was a lovely moment.  As I remember saying at the time, there are no doubt more important parenting goals than having kids who like to go see great music performed well, but I’m still glad to have achieved it.

Anyway.  She’s going to go off to college next year.

This is not a surprising fact; she’s that age and she’s always had college in her plans.  She’ll end up somewhere great (hopefully with a good college radio station!) and she’ll do well, I’m confident.

I sure hope she also keeps seeing great live music and finding new great bands.  (I keep looking at the venues in the places she’s considering, hoping they’ve got a good talent buyer.)  And I hope she goes and sees a band that becomes for her what The Hold Steady and The Suburbs and Quiet Company and Mates of State and Fishbone and The Thermals and Michael Franti and Sharon Jones and so many more bands have been for me.

We’ve been doing this radio show thing for kids and families for over eleven years now (and have no plans to stop any time soon).  Lots of our early listeners are in the same situation we are, or will be soon.

My hope is that at least for some of your kids, the show has been an introduction not just to great music for kids, but as the first step for your kids finding music that moves and engages them the way these bands have done for me.  Get out to the shows with your kids, even as they get older; you might have to take a nap before hand (Uncle Rock has a whole song about that), but it’ll be worth it.  I’ll be out at the Against Me! show with Ella at the Mohawk in a few months and hopefully a lot more before she heads on the road.

At almost every Hold Steady show, Craig Finn declares, “There is so much joy in what we do up here,” and it’s palpably true.  That joy comes from every person in the venue, and it is shared with every person in the venue.  Help your kids find the band who brings the joy for them like that.  Maybe it’s a band you like, maybe it isn’t; be excited about it either way.

(Also: Buy music.  Buy merch.  Tip well.  Sing along, even if you don’t sing.  Support the bands.)

There’s gonna come a time when the true scene leaders
Forget where they differ and get big picture
‘Cause the kids at the shows, they’ll have kids of their own
The sing-along songs will be our scriptures

–The Hold Steady, Stay Positive

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